Maximize your Visit with Grandma


boy and girl hugging their grandparents

Loneliness is a real issue for residents in nursing homes. They are far from their families and everything familiar. Even though they are surrounded by people—residents and staff who sometimes become cherished friends—there is no replacement for family. Family and friends are important for residents’ emotional, and even physical, well-being.

But it’s hard to visit when Grandma is in later stages of dementia and can no longer communicate. You feel uncomfortable and not sure how to fill the silence. Does your presence even make a difference?

The answer is yes. Your loved one is still there underneath the dementia or other illness, and family visits help her connect to the person she used to be. Regular visits from family and friends are essential in keeping that connection alive.

Here are five tips to help you pay a meaningful visit to your loved one:

1. Come at a good time

Schedule and consistency is very important for seniors, especially seniors with dementia. Make sure to come at a time when your visit will not interfere with your loved one’s schedule. The afternoon is usually the best time to visit. In the morning, the staff is busy getting the residents dressed and ready for the day. Your relative may feel uncomfortable if you’re present while they are being attended to. If you’re not sure when the best time to visit is, call ahead to find out. The nurses can also tell you when your loved one is at his or her best.

2. Bring family photos or the local newspaper

Bring along snapshots of people and places in their lives to help residents feel more connected. You can bring family photos to show off, and update your relative on the lives of loved ones. You may want to compile a photo album or scrapbook with both old and new photographs. Your relative can flip through the snapshots when you’re not there, and nurture the connection to his past life. Photos from when he was young are especially helpful, since dementia patients often remember their youth much better than their adult life. You can even personalize her room with family photos, favorite wall art, decorative pillows, and knikknacks that are meaningful to her.

You can also bring the local newspaper from their community and read sections they may be interested in. If Dad was an avid sports fan, you can read the sports news and scores for his favorite teams. Even if your loved one can’t respond, just hearing about topics they used to enjoy may bring them comfort.

3. Go for a stroll

If your relative is up to it, take them on a walk around the facility. If the weather is nice, you can take them outside. Our gardens and patios at the different Regency facilities are stunning year-round, and residents and their guests enjoy sitting outside and imbibing the calming effects of our lovely campuses.

4. Bring children along

Don’t be scared to bring children to the facility. Children are natural icebreakers, and their lack of inhibition helps with awkward moments. Bring along something for them to do, such as a picture book or small project. New readers can practice their reading skills with Grandma, or tell about new things they’ve learned.

5. Touch a lot

Affectionate touch is a basic human need. Most of the touch your loved one is getting, while gentle, is for care and hygiene only. Give them a lot of hugs during your visit. Try massaging his hand gently or giving her a back rub.

Bonus Tip: Act natural

Be yourself, that’s who your relative wants to see. It may be hard to see your loved one’s mental and physical abilities deteriorate, but make sure to act real. Speak slowly and clearly if their hearing is impaired, but don’t patronize them or speak to them like a child. Treat them naturally, with the respect and dignity they deserve!


Regency Gardens Nursing Center and St. Joseph’s Wayne Hospital; Perfect Neighbors!

An industry colleague asked me again today (or was it yesterday? It is afterall 1 am on Wednesday, as I write these lines), whether it is true what people say about St. Joseph’s Hospital being located “in our backyard.”

My response was unequivocal; YES IT IS TRUE!

In fact, here is a photo taken during the summer time in our magnificent and sprawling backyard, at Regency Gardens.

See that tall building right in the backdrop?


It is quite literally in our backyard and you could walk several paces and you’ll be in their spacious parking lot.

We have enjoyed a wonderful partnership with this hospital over the years and have worked in seamless collaboration and in good faith to care for their patients!

Hospitals Near Regency Gardens, Wayne, NJ



Artificial Intelligence Is An Emerging Market In Healthcare?

Artificial intelligence (AI) will play a major role in healthcare digital transformation, according to new research.

The study, “Human Amplification in the Enterprise,” surveyed more than 1,000 business leaders from organizations of more than 1,000 employees, with $500 million or more annual revenue and from a range of sectors, all in the U.S.

Survey respondents from the healthcare sector indicated that the following AI-supported activities will play a significant role in their transformations: Machine learning (77%), robotic automation (61%), institutionalization of enterprise knowledge using AI (59%), cognitive AI-led processes or tasks (50%) and automated predictive analytics (47%).

The jury is out on all of this, but very interesting food for thought.


Regency Gardens In Wayne Participates in St. Joseph’s Golf Event!

I am so proud to share with you some follow up photos from our golf event yesterday with the St. Joseph’s Healthcare System!

As a member and sponsor of their ‘President’s Circle Club,’ this is an event we eagerly look forward to each year.

The golf outing also presents the hospital with an opportunity to recognize the Regency Gardens Nursing and Rehabilitation Center, not only for the unrivaled care we provide for their patients, but also for the philanthropic efforts of our President, David Gross (who happens to be an accomplished and avid golfer), to give back to the community and to support the hospital foundation and its work.

Here are some photos from the event!

Left to right: Regency Gardens Administrator, Mark Benedek, Medical Director, Dr. Kucuk, Regency Founder & President, David Gross

left to right: David Gross, Jennifer Mendrzycki, VP at St. Joseph’s, Michael Gross, Director of Corporate Marketing at Regency, Carmela Petrozza, Director of Admissions at Regency Gardens
Regency team with Margie Langer, MD FACEP, Chief of Emergency Medicine at St. Joseph’s
With Kevin Slavin, President of St. Joseph’s Hospital


With the Mayor of Wayne, NJ, Christopher Vergano

My Experience With Regency Gardens Nursing and Rehabilitation in Wayne, NJ

We are always thrilled when we receive stellar reviews from our rehab patients.

However, today’s review posted online by Eva Price, is truly remarkable and I thought to share it with you all.

She posted her review online in 3 different places.

Click on the links and snapshots to read her comments:

Regency Gardens Google Page


Nursing Home Rater


Regency Gardens HealthGrove Page